Mar15
on March 15, 2016
A few weeks ago I went to a wedding of some of Joe’s and mine’s dearest friends. These two have been amazing and wonderful to me, and to Joe, in our lives – and it felt really special to be able to share in their day.
Weddings, or Queddings (as this one was), are such a strange spot for me. I personally don’t understand them, and feel frustrated by the focus that LGBTQ activism places on them – but also love, and in particular Queer love, is pretty great. Plus knowing the couple, and getting to celebrate their awesomeness is cool.
Plus we looked so adorbs:
Picture by Dan Liu, who is awesome 😀
SUPER adorbs 😀
I am jealous adorns! You are both rocking it so unbelievably hard. Awesome sauce.
Adorbs. Stupid auto correct…
Omg so so so so cute! My Qwhanau!! Love love love xxx
As someone in a heteronormative looking marriage (though not actually straight personally) I would like marriage to be out the window for everyone. It’s out dated and unneeded. However as someone who married someone from another country I really really want people to have their relationships recognised by governments for immigration purposes because I hate that I could move to the UK to be with my husband but a lesbian or gay man couldn’t move their love to the USA that’s messed up.
If we could have marriage as like a christening: something you can do for your own celebration but has no legal standing that would be fantastic and all the legal stuff like visitations, immigration etc handled in a seperate way and open to everyone…that would be ideal.
Yep, adorbs.
marriage the ceremony may be loaded socio-religious twattery but legal marriage is an economic enabler. tax breaks, credit perks, you can share health/life/car/home insurance plans, qualify for discounts, etc. plus you and your spouse get hospital visitation rights and the right to make important health decisions for each other when one is not able (ie, coma situations, major emergency surgery, right to die). you don’t have to pay tax on property inherited from your spouse and you get their pension, military benefits, family leave, retirement benefits, immigration benefits, prison visitation rights, spousal confidentiality rights, and the ability to sue for and collect settlements if your spouse is victim of a crime or named in a wrongful death suit
trans people with shit families sometimes get purposely buried under the wrong name. spousal rights override this as the surviving spouse makes final arrangements instead of the decedent’s DNA donors
marriage rights are pretty important, it’s not all pretty dresses and parties that cost as much as a car and a slow descent into bland passive-aggressive mediocrity. it’s an escape route to consider if one gazes back at the family tree upon reaching adulthood and sees a lot of hateful pricks among the branches
man did you weep your facial hair off in the last panel? hardcore
HAHAHAHA so hardcore, I didn’t even realise!
One solution would be to make ‘marriage’ the thing religions offer, and civil partnerships the thing that offers the legal statuses. But can you imagine the uproar there would be if ‘marriage’ were ‘taken away’ from heteronormative couples?
Also, you look utterly fabulous and gorgeous in that photo!